Nacho Kids Goal
The goal of the Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting method is to eventually re-engage with your stepkids in a healthy non-parental role that works for everyone.
Or Maybe Not
It is understandable that not everyone can, or will want to, re-engage with their stepkids. Some stepparents may choose not to re-engage, and some stepkids may not be interested in having the stepparent re-engage. That’s okay! You don’t have to like everyone, and they don’t have to like you!
One Step Forward, Two Steps Back
Still, some stepparents may re-engage, then realize that it’s not working or is not what is best, and so they return to Nachoing for their own sanity and stress levels in the home.
Things Might Change
Time changes things. If things seem to be going well with your stepkid to the point they would message you “Happy Mother’s Day! I love you!” then, one day they want nothing to do with you, do not take it personally. They are obviously going through something, and you can’t fix it. And, unfortunately, you are an easy target.
Focus On The Good
You may never know what happened and why the stepkid all of a sudden hates you, and you don’t need to know. Simply focus on your marriage and your bio kids if you have them, and your other stepkids if you have good relationships with them. And Nacho supreme the stepkid that wants nothing to do with you.
Letting Go Of The Toxicity
You can and will probably still care about them, want what’s best for them, and possibly even love them. And that’s okay! But you can’t care to the detriment of your own well-being and other relationships. Part of life is realizing when people are toxic and getting them out of your life. It’s not easy and it can hurt a lot, but you can’t continue to let that toxicity in your life. Simply wish them the best and carry on with the good people in your life.