#1 You can’t say anything negative to or about the stepkid.
#2 You can’t expect more from the stepkid than their own bio parents do.
#3 You can’t care more about the stepkids than the bio parents do.
#4 You can’t parent them like your own.
#5 You can’t expect them to treat you as their parent, because you’re not.
#6 You can’t expect your significant other to parent like you think they should.
#7 You can’t control what happens at the “other parent’s house”.
#8 You can’t discipline them like your own.
#9 You can’t expect the stepkids to treat you with respect if your significant other doesn’t make them.
#10 You can’t feel guilty for not loving them like your own.