#1     You can’t say anything negative to or about the stepkid.

#2     You can’t expect more from the stepkid than their own bio parents do.

#3     You can’t care more about the stepkids than the bio parents do.

#4     You can’t parent them like your own.

#5     You can’t expect them to treat you as their parent, because you’re not.

#6     You can’t expect your significant other to parent like you think they should.

#7     You can’t control what happens at the “other parent’s house”.

#8     You can’t discipline them like your own.

#9     You can’t expect the stepkids to treat you with respect if your significant other doesn’t make them.

#10    You can’t feel guilty for not loving them like your own.