Stepkid Versus Stepparent Many times stepparents feel the stepkid’s bad behavior is directed toward them. It may appear that way, for sure. Especially if the stepparent finds a note, the stepkid wrote that says, “I hate (insert stepparent’s name).” Yeah, it’s hard to see that the note isn’t about you. It specifically says YOU! But it’s rarely about you. What ...
It’s Not For Everyone Nachoing, or using the Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting method, is not for everyone but it has saved thousands of blended families worldwide from demise, as well as helped many stepfamilies avoid struggles others have experienced. Is It For You? Overwhelmed in your stepparent role? Despite the stepkid having two bio parents, do you feel that you ...
After 174 Podcast Episodes Every week for over the past three years, we have released a Nacho Kids ~ Nacho Parenting podcast episode. Some of these episodes have been with licensed therapists, counselors, lawyers, and other stepfamily coaches but the majority have been with bio or stepparents in the blend, and also some stepkids. We wanted to share with you ...
Ignored By The Stepkid There are different ways a stepkid can ignore a stepparent. One way is ignoring the stepparent when they tell the stepkid to do something. Another way is if the stepparent says “Hello.” and the stepkid doesn’t respond. Oh, and let’s not forget when the stepkid ignores the stepparent by addressing everyone in the room except the ...
Nope, I Didn’t Say Hello When I started the Nachoing, I didn’t say hello to my stepkids when they returned from their moms. I know some of you reading this are thinking, “How dare you! You are the adult!” Yeah, yeah, yeah. I probably would have thought the same thing pre-Nacho. Why I Didn’t It was pretty simple. When I ...
There are many myths we see about Nacho Parenting. Let’s look at ten of these myths and learn the facts. Myth # 1 You Nacho because it’s the easy way out. Wrong! Nachoing is anything but easy! Fact: From the outside it may seem so, but believe me learning to respond and not react takes time and practice. Myth # ...
Graduation Challenges Whether it’s graduation from kindergarten, middle school, high school, or college, these events can be difficult times for stepfamilies. It can also be difficult for bio parents who have split up and are not remarried or in a new relationship. When The Bio Parents Aren’t Together Oftentimes bio parents don’t have a good relationship with each other. As ...
Do Stepkids Need Their Own Bedrooms This discussion comes up quite frequently in Facebook groups and coaching. Usually, the stepparent does not feel the stepkid needs a room of their own because the kid isn’t there all the time and that space could be used for something else. What If They Aren’t With You Full-time With blended families, we see ...
Is Nachoing Simply Disengaging? NO. Nachoing, or using the Nacho Kids method, is not simply disengaging. While disengaging is commonly the first step of the Nacho Kids method, and helps relieve some of the pressure off the blend, the method entails much more. Let’s look at some of the other parts of the method, as they are just as important! ...
It’s Not Fair Oftentimes we hear people say that Nachoing won’t work for them because things won’t be fair. What do you do when things seem unfair between kids in the blend? Can things always be fair? Let’s talk about this. Fair Parenting I grew up in a nuclear family, and guess what? Things weren’t always fair! My parents expected ...
Vacations Aren’t Always Relaxing Any parent who has taken their kids on vacation, knows vacations aren’t as much fun as when you were the kid! The kids want to go everywhere and do something every waking minute, while the adults are usually fine with doing some activities, but they also want to relax. Planning Can Be A Challenge In a ...
The Challenge Of Towels You would not believe how much “towels” are a source of contention in blended families! Whether it’s the stepkids using too many towels, or they don’t hang them up to dry. Instead, they just leave them laying on the floor. We all know that damp towels just sitting on the floor cannot only make them smell ...