Come To Reality You’re not a nuclear family. There are bio parents involved. You can’t expect your family to behave like a nuclear family, because they aren’t! It’s the “round hole square peg” thing. Stop trying to make it be something it’s not! Once you come to terms with the fact that you are not, nor will you ever be, ...
How Many Last Names Are There In Your Blend? Is your last name the same as your significant others? Is your last name the same as your bio kids, or what about your stepkids? Do you have any “ours” kids that have your same last name? Most blended/stepfamilies have different last names under the same roof. Some have many! My ...
Pictures… When you’re in a blended family, or stepfamily, everything seems complicated. And pictures are one of those times it can become more stressful than it needs to be. I think back to when we took our first professional pictures, and remember there was no stress. We didn’t really think about it or talk about how we were going to ...
The Instinct to Mother For many stepmoms, the mothering role comes naturally. We tend to want to take care of the stepkids. As stepmoms, we often automatically feel the need help make sure they are doing what they are supposed to in school. We cook for them, do their laundry, play taxi, etc. When things go south, as many times ...
Why All The Nachos: People often ask, what is Nachoing? What is Nacho Parenting? What is the Nacho Kids method? What does it mean when people say “Nacho That!”? The Facebook response is usually “Nacho Kids, Nacho Problem.” Well, not quite. The stepkids can definitely be a problem for you. It’s “Nacho Kids, Nacho Responsibility”. The stepkids are not the ...
Mother’s Day and Stepmoms One of the hardest days for stepmoms seems to be Mother’s Day. It’s quite understandable. Many stepmoms take care of their stepkids in a lot of the same ways a mother would care for them. They cook for them, clean after them, haul them back and forth to school, etc. More often than not, the stepmom ...
Shhhh… Don’t tell anyone To say being a stepmom is hard, is a drastic understatement. For many, it’s the hardest thing they will ever have to do. That’s confirmed by the failure rate of stepfamilies/blended families. You have to wonder when something is so hard, why don’t more stepmoms get help? The truth is, many stepmoms are ashamed to admit ...
You’re not a nuclear family Many stepfamilies start off in the “blend” thinking they will be able to blend like a “nuclear family”. Unfortunately, the probability of this happening is very slim. And trying to force the stepfamily/blended family to be like a nuclear family is unrealistic. Instead, let go of the “nuclear family dream”, and focus on your relationship ...
Time Flies I cannot believe we’ve been in the “blend” for almost 10 years! Woohoo! We did it! Thankfully, we did not end up being a blended family statistic! At one point, we were as close as we could be to becoming one of the statistics, but we made it through it! We are surviving and thriving in the blend! ...
#1 You can’t say anything negative to or about the stepkid. #2 You can’t expect more from the stepkid than their own bio parents do. #3 You can’t care more about the stepkids than the bio parents do. #4 You can’t parent them like your own. #5 You can’t expect them to treat you as ...
To help you better understand Nachoing, here is a list of the Do’s and Don’ts of Nachoing. Not all of these apply to everyone, but it is a good basis to start. For example, if you and your significant other’s ex get along great, you don’t need to nacho them. The same with pick-ups and drop-offs, if they don’t cause ...
A lot of times in blended family Facebook groups. you will see the term “Nachoing”, or someone saying “Nacho that”. What exactly does this mean? It basically means using the Nacho Kids Method to step back from the situation in order to lower the stress of the blend. The Nacho Kids method consists of many facets. Here are some of them: ...