The Family Court system is not somewhere you strive to go. Unfortunately a lot of people end up there because of divorce or child custody hearings. Throughout my many years in and out of the court system, I have learned five very important things. It’s an extremely stressful and costly journey to prepare and go to court. Lawyers are not ...
You Nacho to lessen the stress and anxiety, not just in you but those around you. If you are stressed and anxious, others around you will feel that. It’s not a pleasant environment. You Nacho to save your sanity. You do this by realizing the things you have absolutely no control over. Whether it be the lack of parenting by ...
NachoKids is not disrespectful to anyone. It’s not ignoring the stepkids or neglecting them. It’s not punishing their bio parents. Is it disrespectful to avoid situations that can cause arguments? Is it disrespectful to shut the door to the messy bedroom of stepkid so it doesn’t start a fight? Is it disrespectful to not parent a kid that’s not yours? ...
When you are disengaging, you don’t have to Nacho everything. Just Nacho the things that cause you stress. If you don’t mind cooking dinner for the family, then continue to do so. However, if the dishes left over from cooking and eating anger you, then you may want to reconsider cooking. You have to identify the things that annoy you. ...
Level 1 – Basic Nacho: Certain task(s)/duties/responsibilities are Nacho’d. Not often communicated to the bio parent as being placed into practice. It’s a bit more subtle. This is also the beginner’s level or the method that just simply works for you and your household. Level 2 – Nacho Grande: Stepping back considerably and placing so much more of the parenting ...
I don’t treat them the same… I don’t treat my NachoKids the same as I do my son. I love them and they know it but they also know that my son is treated differently. Is it right? Is it wrong? It just is. As a NachoMom, I see what the NachoKids do wrong quicker than I see what my ...
The many levels of stepfamilies – Nacho Grandparents Of course, when you get married to someone with kids, most the time their mother and father or mother and stepfather or stepmother and father (you get the picture) are involved in some fashion. This dynamic, just as all others in blended families, can vary significantly by the age of the ...
Nacho Kids method – almost better than Krispy Kreme Doughnuts! Some do as I did when I first heard “they are not your kids”. They think it’s a bad thing. It’s not a bad thing, it is actually almost better than Krispy Kreme HOT & NOW doughnuts, but not quite. Great, now I’m craving those. UGH! Have you tried their ...
Many people have a very huge misconception of The NachoKids method. The method is not saying to be mean, disrespectful, insensitive, etc. to your step kids. It’s just the opposite. It’s to help you learn a different approach or a different concept to disengaging. It’s to help you not bug your husband with everything the kids do that annoy you. ...
I just realized something. It was kind of obvious, now that I think about it, but I still can’t believe it! I am constantly reading something about blended families. I read Facebook group member posts, I read professional articles, books. One thing I have noticed recently is more people posting about the BM (Biological Mother). As I read these stories, I ...
This is not a bible study blog nor is it a religious blog. It is about an event. We attend a church that is approximately 45 minutes from our house. Not that our destination changes the dynamics of the ride. With five kids in the car, by the time you get to church, you definitely need some “religion” because ...
When my son was little, every other Friday, I would always take him home from daycare, bathe him, dress him in the “daddy outfit” for the weekend and take him to his dad. He would keep him until Sunday. No, I don’t dress him in fancy clothes to go to his dad’s and he usually wears a pair of “play” ...